What’s In My Toybox: Gag Edition!

What’s In My Toybox: Gag Edition!

Continuing on with the “What’s In My…” series, today we’re going to be taking a closer look at my gag collection! Let me kick things off by showing you two of the newest pieces in my collection; the Master Series Latrine Gag, and the Fetish Fantasy Extreme Compliance Kit. If you’re a fan of consensual humiliation or service-based kink, you might enjoy one (or both) of these! I definitely wouldn’t pay full price for them — I don’t think that…

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What’s in my Bag: Kinky Sex Party Edition

What’s in my Bag: Kinky Sex Party Edition

After having so much fun writing about what’s in my little’s bag a few weeks ago, I thought it would be neat to follow up by sharing the contents of my toy bag. In this case, the toy bag that I’m packing for a masquerade themed sex party that my partners and I will be attending this evening. Like my little’s bag, my main toy bag is also a Betsey Johnson train case. What I carry in my travel bag changes…

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Review: Rocks-Off, Love in Chains Lust Linx

Review: Rocks-Off, Love in Chains Lust Linx

This fancy-looking kegel toy was kindly sent to me by Rocks-Off in exchange for an honest review, and it has left me with some mixed feelings. But before we get right into it, let’s take a moment to talk about the toy itself, shall we? The “Love in Chains”, which is a part of Rocks-Off’s “Lust Linx” line, is made out of a soft, body-safe silicone chain, which weaves between two shiny, stainless steel balls, and ends with a metal…

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What’s in My Bag: DD/lg Edition!

What’s in My Bag: DD/lg Edition!

If you follow me on Twitter or Instagram, you probably already know that I have an interest in DD/lg play, otherwise known as Daddy Dom / little girl (or Caregiver/little, to be more gender inclusive), and that I’ve been wanting to share more about those interests on my blog for some time now. For me, DD/lg isn’t really about age-play. I am 28, everyday, all of the time, and don’t feel like I’m regressing as a part of my play….

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On the Edge of the Impossible

On the Edge of the Impossible

You’re standing on the edge of the impossible, eye to eye with whatever scares you the most. You can feel your heart racing, palms sweating, lips chapping. Dread drops into the pit of your stomach like a ton of bricks, the weight of it stopping you dead in your tracks. Except your impossible isn’t an Everest, it’s not a parachute and roaring jet engines, it’s not even love or loss, and it doesn’t take a free-fall to feel your heart…

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Round Up: November Favourites

Round Up: November Favourites

Happy December, blogfam! With a new month finally upon us, I thought it would be fun to do a round up of some of my go-to sex toys and fetish gear during the month of November. Some of these pieces definitely deserve — and will receive — review posts of their very own, but in the meantime, here’s something to whet your appetite. In no particular order: The Heavenly Heart Mini Plug by Doc Johnson has definitely been my go-to…

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The Baby Bear Boutique: First Impressions & Halloween Onesie Review

The Baby Bear Boutique: First Impressions & Halloween Onesie Review

The Baby Bear Boutique is a fairly new company on the adult onesie scene, and after seeing their halloween bodysuit promotions come across my social media feed earlier this summer, I was excited to give them a try. I placed my pre-order in the middle of August, and I believe that they began to ship out in early September, with a guaranteed arrival date before Halloween. Knowing that the sizing was supposed to run a little large, I went ahead…

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“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“If you really were assaulted, why didn’t you come forward sooner? Why did you continue to be friends with the accused?” Look, I was 19 when this happened. I had only been active in the kink community for a little over a year, and I’d never had to handle something like this before. The accused was someone I trusted, someone I had considered a friend. When this happened, I had a lot of thoughts and feelings to work through, and…

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Personal: It’s Not ‘All In Your Head’.

Personal: It’s Not ‘All In Your Head’.

I’ll start at the beginning: I have a generalized anxiety & panic disorder. I’ve had it since I was a very small child, though it went undiagnosed (and frequently misdiagnosed) until adulthood (which isn’t unusual, especially 20+ years ago). It’s not the result of trauma, poor upbringing, or anything like that — I was born with it, and it’s likely caused by a genetic chemical imbalance outside of anyone’s control. If you’ve never dealt with mental illness before, you might…

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How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

Just because someone is a long-standing member of the kink community doesn’t automatically mean that they’re ‘safe’, ’sane’ or knowledgable — and just because some people have had good experiences with someone doesn’t mean that *everyone* has. People can talk about their experiences (positive, negative, neutral) however they see fit, but don’t think for one minute that two (or even twenty-two) positive references automatically negates *any* & *all* negative experiences that someone else might have had with that person, or…

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