Round Up: November Favourites

Round Up: November Favourites

Happy December, blogfam! With a new month finally upon us, I thought it would be fun to do a round up of some of my go-to sex toys and fetish gear during the month of November. Some of these pieces definitely deserve — and will receive — review posts of their very own, but in the meantime, here’s something to whet your appetite. In no particular order: The Heavenly Heart Mini Plug by Doc Johnson has definitely been my go-to…

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The Baby Bear Boutique: First Impressions & Halloween Onesie Review

The Baby Bear Boutique: First Impressions & Halloween Onesie Review

The Baby Bear Boutique is a fairly new company on the adult onesie scene, and after seeing their halloween bodysuit promotions come across my social media feed earlier this summer, I was excited to give them a try. I placed my pre-order in the middle of August, and I believe that they began to ship out in early September, with a guaranteed arrival date before Halloween. Knowing that the sizing was supposed to run a little large, I went ahead…

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“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“If you really were assaulted, why didn’t you come forward sooner? Why did you continue to be friends with the accused?” Look, I was 19 when this happened. I had only been active in the kink community for a little over a year, and I’d never had to handle something like this before. The accused was someone I trusted, someone I had considered a friend. When this happened, I had a lot of thoughts and feelings to work through, and…

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Personal: It’s Not ‘All In Your Head’.

Personal: It’s Not ‘All In Your Head’.

I’ll start at the beginning: I have a generalized anxiety & panic disorder. I’ve had it since I was a very small child, though it went undiagnosed (and frequently misdiagnosed) until adulthood (which isn’t unusual, especially 20+ years ago). It’s not the result of trauma, poor upbringing, or anything like that — I was born with it, and it’s likely caused by a genetic chemical imbalance outside of anyone’s control. If you’ve never dealt with mental illness before, you might…

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How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

Just because someone is a long-standing member of the kink community doesn’t automatically mean that they’re ‘safe’, ’sane’ or knowledgable — and just because some people have had good experiences with someone doesn’t mean that *everyone* has. People can talk about their experiences (positive, negative, neutral) however they see fit, but don’t think for one minute that two (or even twenty-two) positive references automatically negates *any* & *all* negative experiences that someone else might have had with that person, or…

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There is No ‘Safe’ Space In the Kink Community: A Consent Violation Story

There is No ‘Safe’ Space In the Kink Community: A Consent Violation Story

I originally wrote and posted this as a note on Fetlife several years ago. At the time, I still wanted to believe that the person in question did not have a history of predatory behaviour, and that this was more of a one-off event, so I was very careful about concealing their identity out of respect for them. However, recent events in my local community have proven that belief wrong. This incident happened locally during my first few years in…

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Mini Review: Blush Novelties Safe Sex Toy Bag (Large)

Mini Review: Blush Novelties Safe Sex Toy Bag (Large)

A few weeks ago, Blush Novelties hosted a raffle to win one of six uniquely coloured dildos, and I was lucky enough to have one of my entries drawn as a winner. The prize packs included a one-of-a-kind Luxe Mio dildo (which in my case, came in a wonderfully vibrant orange), along with one of Blush Novelties’ Safe Sex Toy Bags, in a size large. I plan on writing about the Luxe Mio at some point in the future, but…

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The Reality

The Reality

I’m never scared in my fantasies. I can take anything. Gracefully, eagerly, and without fear. I can let go fully and completely each and every time, giving in to y(our) every whim and fantasy without a glimmer of hesitation. Every harsh lash and even harsher murmur brings me closer and closer to convulsing, orgasmic, euphoric bliss. There is no doubt. No uncertainty. No second guessing (of you, or of myself). There is nothing but pure, complete submission and shameless lust….

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Review: Stim by Servant Sex Toys

Review: Stim by Servant Sex Toys

A few weeks ago, the kind folks over at Servant Sex Toys offered to send me a toy of my choice in exchange for an honest review. After browsing their website, I quickly locked my eyes on the Stim. The Stim arrived discretly enough in a well-padded envelope. Inside, the toy was sealed in a simple, clear plastic bag, with “Servant Sex Toys” and “Made in Canada” stickers on the front. Servant Sex Toys is an up-and-coming Canadian company that…

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Wish I Wasn’t Poly (Written by PolyHusband)

Wish I Wasn’t Poly (Written by PolyHusband)

Sometimes…. I wish that I’d feel jealous and a little insecure when someone was showing my girl a little too much attention. I wish I didn’t feel those little sparks of attraction when I meet someone new, wish I didn’t mourn holding back words and gestures of affection when they felt right, wish they didn’t feel right. I wish I had my one true love. I wish the bonds and connections didn’t form that same way all the time, wish…

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