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Month: October 2017

How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

Just because someone is a long-standing member of the kink community doesn’t automatically mean that they’re ‘safe’, ’sane’ or knowledgable — and just because some people have had good experiences with someone doesn’t mean that *everyone* has. People can talk about their experiences (positive, negative, neutral) however they see fit, but don’t think for one minute that two (or even twenty-two) positive references automatically negates *any* & *all* negative experiences that someone else might have had with that person, or…

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There is No ‘Safe’ Space In the Kink Community: A Consent Violation Story

There is No ‘Safe’ Space In the Kink Community: A Consent Violation Story

I originally wrote and posted this as a note on Fetlife several years ago. At the time, I still wanted to believe that the person in question did not have a history of predatory behaviour, and that this was more of a one-off event, so I was very careful about concealing their identity out of respect for them. However, recent events in my local community have proven that belief wrong. This incident happened locally during my first few years in…

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Mini Review: Blush Novelties Safe Sex Toy Bag (Large)

Mini Review: Blush Novelties Safe Sex Toy Bag (Large)

A few weeks ago, Blush Novelties hosted a raffle to win one of six uniquely coloured dildos, and I was lucky enough to have one of my entries drawn as a winner. The prize packs included a one-of-a-kind Luxe Mio dildo (which in my case, came in a wonderfully vibrant orange), along with one of Blush Novelties’ Safe Sex Toy Bags, in a size large. I plan on writing about the Luxe Mio at some point in the future, but…

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The Reality

The Reality

I’m never scared in my fantasies. I can take anything. Gracefully, eagerly, and without fear. I can let go fully and completely each and every time, giving in to y(our) every whim and fantasy without a glimmer of hesitation. Every harsh lash and even harsher murmur brings me closer and closer to convulsing, orgasmic, euphoric bliss. There is no doubt. No uncertainty. No second guessing (of you, or of myself). There is nothing but pure, complete submission and shameless lust….

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