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“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“If you really were assaulted, why didn’t you come forward sooner? Why did you continue to be friends with the accused?” Look, I was 19 when this happened. I had only been active in the kink community for a little over a year, and I’d never had to handle something like this before. The accused was someone I trusted, someone I had considered a friend. When this happened, I had a lot of thoughts and feelings to work through, and…

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Personal: It’s Not ‘All In Your Head’.

Personal: It’s Not ‘All In Your Head’.

I’ll start at the beginning: I have a generalized anxiety & panic disorder. I’ve had it since I was a very small child, though it went undiagnosed (and frequently misdiagnosed) until adulthood (which isn’t unusual, especially 20+ years ago). It’s not the result of trauma, poor upbringing, or anything like that — I was born with it, and it’s likely caused by a genetic chemical imbalance outside of anyone’s control. If you’ve never dealt with mental illness before, you might…

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