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Round Up: November Favourites

Round Up: November Favourites

Happy December, blogfam! With a new month finally upon us, I thought it would be fun to do a round up of some of my go-to sex toys and fetish gear during the month of November. Some of these pieces definitely deserve — and will receive — review posts of their very own, but in the meantime, here’s something to whet your appetite. In no particular order: The Heavenly Heart Mini Plug by Doc Johnson has definitely been my go-to…

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“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“If you really were assaulted, why didn’t you come forward sooner? Why did you continue to be friends with the accused?” Look, I was 19 when this happened. I had only been active in the kink community for a little over a year, and I’d never had to handle something like this before. The accused was someone I trusted, someone I had considered a friend. When this happened, I had a lot of thoughts and feelings to work through, and…

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How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

How You Handle Shit Matters: On Consent Violations, Mistakes and Kindness in Kink

Just because someone is a long-standing member of the kink community doesn’t automatically mean that they’re ‘safe’, ’sane’ or knowledgable — and just because some people have had good experiences with someone doesn’t mean that *everyone* has. People can talk about their experiences (positive, negative, neutral) however they see fit, but don’t think for one minute that two (or even twenty-two) positive references automatically negates *any* & *all* negative experiences that someone else might have had with that person, or…

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The Reality

The Reality

I’m never scared in my fantasies. I can take anything. Gracefully, eagerly, and without fear. I can let go fully and completely each and every time, giving in to y(our) every whim and fantasy without a glimmer of hesitation. Every harsh lash and even harsher murmur brings me closer and closer to convulsing, orgasmic, euphoric bliss. There is no doubt. No uncertainty. No second guessing (of you, or of myself). There is nothing but pure, complete submission and shameless lust….

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Why You Should Have Your Own Toybag *Regardless* of Your Role or Orientation

Why You Should Have Your Own Toybag *Regardless* of Your Role or Orientation

This is primarily aimed at those who play casually and/or with multiple people, and might not be applicable (at least, in its entirety) to fluid-bonded partners. Some toys are porous and can not be sanitized for use between partners. Unfortunately, leather toys are on that list. There are things that can be done to minimize the risks of cross-contamination when using porous toys, but it’s difficult to eliminate them entirely, especially if the same set of toys are being used between partners…

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