Browsed by
Tag: personal

“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“But he’s never done that to me, Violet!”

“If you really were assaulted, why didn’t you come forward sooner? Why did you continue to be friends with the accused?” Look, I was 19 when this happened. I had only been active in the kink community for a little over a year, and I’d never had to handle something like this before. The accused was someone I trusted, someone I had considered a friend. When this happened, I had a lot of thoughts and feelings to work through, and…

Read More Read More

There is No ‘Safe’ Space In the Kink Community: A Consent Violation Story

There is No ‘Safe’ Space In the Kink Community: A Consent Violation Story

I originally wrote and posted this as a note on Fetlife several years ago. At the time, I still wanted to believe that the person in question did not have a history of predatory behaviour, and that this was more of a one-off event, so I was very careful about concealing their identity out of respect for them. However, recent events in my local community have proven that belief wrong. This incident happened locally during my first few years in…

Read More Read More

The Reality

The Reality

I’m never scared in my fantasies. I can take anything. Gracefully, eagerly, and without fear. I can let go fully and completely each and every time, giving in to y(our) every whim and fantasy without a glimmer of hesitation. Every harsh lash and even harsher murmur brings me closer and closer to convulsing, orgasmic, euphoric bliss. There is no doubt. No uncertainty. No second guessing (of you, or of myself). There is nothing but pure, complete submission and shameless lust….

Read More Read More

When I Say That I’m Poly…

When I Say That I’m Poly…

…I’m not saying that I’m unsatisfied with my current relationship(s). For me, polyamory has never been about filling some kind of void. I could be perfectly content in a one partner relationship for a very long time, possibly indefinitely. I practice polyamory because I want to be able to explore the connections that I form throughout my life, and to express my affection for the people who are important to me, not because I need to have multiple partners to…

Read More Read More